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Etiquette Question
I've got an etiquette question, and I need some advice.
I've got a family member who includes me on email forwarding lists disparaging the presidential candidate I am partial to. I'd rather not receive these emails, but I'm not sure how to bring that up with him without starting a fight or coming off like a dork.
It's not that I don't like this person, I do very much, I'd just rather not get these political themed emails from them. How do I ask them nicely to stop?
Posted by Mike at March 23, 2008 4:15 PM | Add to del.icio.usI'd suggest setting up a filter to simply prevent you from seeing them. Then you don't need to even bring it up. Unless, of course, this family member also quizzes you on their content.
If you use GMail it's pretty easy to set up a filter to automatically move certain emails out of your inbox. You could set up a rule that matches this person's email address, and a subject line including FWD: or whatever, and even your candidate's name in the body (I think.)
Other email readers ought to have similar capabilities.
Posted by: jer at March 23, 2008 5:15 PMGrow a couple and learn to say "NO MORE". Don't enter into any discussion at all over the situation. Then if you get any more e-mails from your relative, just hit delete.
You've got three choices that I can think of right off the top of my head...two of which are listed above. The third is to start sending the offender e-mails disparaging his/her candidate of choice.
My personal choice would be a short and sweet e-mail to the person simply stating that you have differing political views. Therefore, in an effort to keep family relationships friendly, you would appreciate being left off his/her political e-mails.
I don't know why anyone would get pissy about that.
Posted by: Emma at March 23, 2008 5:42 PMOne thing that worked for me was to check some of their facts. A few particularly hateful e-mails were quickly found to be filled with all falsehoods. I kindly replied back to his entire e-mail list with links to snopes.com or the like where I could site that the "facts" he spouted were indeed fictitious. Somehow, I was suddenly dropped from his e-mail list. Score!
Posted by: ree at March 23, 2008 6:49 PMI second ree's comment. I did the same - basically sent an email "rebuttal" of sorts using snopes.com and several Wiki articles which disproved a number of pesky forward-type emails. Many of their emails were in direct contrast to my political beliefs and other thoughts as well. I was, in several hours it seems, dropped from three relatives' email lists. Not sure if they were angry, but I thought the situation was handled in a polite, quiet manner.
Posted by: Melissa at March 23, 2008 11:11 PMI third ree's comment. Works perfectly by informing others of the offender's lack of diligence in forwarding truthful and useful information. In one case that I did this the person emailed me back and said thanks because he didn't realize that the email was bogus (how I don't know).
Posted by: rich at March 24, 2008 1:11 AMHere's some options:
a) Filter/Mark as Spam/Delete - Easy and non confrontational
b) Ask them to remove you. It might cause some drama but at least you should be off the list.
c) Start your own email campaign for your candidate and include the relative on the list. Once they see that your view's don't align maybe they will stop sending you emails or ask to be removed from your list.
PS: $20 says your relative is a Hillary guy.
Posted by: Micah at March 24, 2008 11:15 AMMy daughter is getting married this spring and would like to have her step-father walk her halfway down the aisle, then have her father walk her the remainder, giving her to her fiancee. Is this wrong, and how do others do it when they want their step-father involved.
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